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ACCEPT THE PAINS.
You must get in touch with your situation. Sometimes people deny
their hardship, thinking that if they don't face them, they will be
happier. But it's the other way around. Allow yourself to go through
the pains.
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CHOOSE NOT TO STAY
IN PAIN. They say this is
"self-empowerment." You can either be bitter about the pains
and feel very powerless. Or you can do something and feel powerful
enough to handle them. It's a choice to live with or without pain.
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FORGIVE YOURSELF,
OTHER PEOPLE. But before forgiveness comes in,
think about how other people hurt. Then realize that you can se
yourself for what you actually are and not how they want you to be. So
finding happiness is no longer rooted outside, but it's inside you -
what you see, how you view things, what you want. Then it leads to
your choice: to live you life with yourself.
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TAKE
RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE. We sometimes allow our
selves to let other people, circumstances, or pains in the past to
rule our lives. So we become very unhappy and very bitter because we
live blaming others on who we are, where we're at, or how we should
be. It's an exhausting process because you'll forever be blaming
other people. Don't be bothered by what others think of who you are or
the standards they set. take responsibility for your life.
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LEARN TO LET GO
AND TRUST YOURSELF. To be happy means learning to
let go of expectations from yourself or from other people. You can't
always have your way. At work, you can't always be sure your
strategies will work or your plans will happen. But before you let go,
have a deeper trust in yourself.
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LEARN TO RECEIVE
BLESSING. Think of the little things that make you
happy or the people that give assurance where you're good at. This is
called receiving. Most of us have reasons to be happy only that we
don't see them or we take them for granted. We need to have little
eyes and little hearts too, and realize that all things make us happy
have been there all along.
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HAVE SOMEBODY TO
TURN TO. Even if you're in turmoil, there are
people who will support you. but often we stick with people who make
us very unhappy. If you're unhappy, seek people who will nurture you
or look for a partner who will serve as a well-spring of inspiration.
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BE HOPEFUL.
Hoping is better than being optimistic since it's whole and real.
Because sometimes, one's optimism can be denial of hardship. It's easy
to be optimistic about things, but inside you, you are anxious about
them. Hoping is deeper. It's something you look forward to even when
you recognize the difficulties and pains. The more hopeful a person
is, the more he recognizes how bad the situation is, and lets himself
to bear it. In the end, he knows it will bear good results. You don't
deny difficulties. You're touching ground instead.
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KEEP THE FAITH
ALIVE. There'll be points n you life when you
can't handle problems alone. Think about SOMEONE who's more powerful,
and who loves you dearly to take care of you. Having faith in GOD will
give you hope.
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SHARE YOURSELF.
You can actually give intangible gifts even without your conscious
effort. People will tell you later that you've helped them, and
gradually, you will feel you're making a difference in their lives.
That's a deeper gift. When you help others, the affirm you by saying,
"You're good." Then you realize that you're a good person,
and your goodness is not merely a based on meeting deadlines or
getting a raise. It's more of proving your self-worth based on being
loved for who you really are and not simply for the results you can
deliver or merely the money you can contribute to the company. his
strengthens your positive attitude towards difficulties in life.
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BE GRATEFUL.
You have to develop yourself the sense of gratitude. You should be
thankful for what you have. But you should recognize that there are
things you can do to improve you life.
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IT'S ALL IN THE
MIND. We are unhappy because we think we are.
Unhappy people are attached to their unhappiness. They refuse to
change. When one thinks negatively, then he attracts negative
thoughts. If you think that a tragedy will fall on you, somehow you
fulfill it. Unconsciously, you make it happen.
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MONEY ISN'T
EVERYTHING. People accumulate more and more money,
but the amount of happiness they can "buy" gets smaller and
smaller. Although more money may bring greater feeling of empowerment,
studies show that personal relationship, spirituality and feelings
about oneself directly influence well-being.
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DISCOVER THE BEST
FRIEND IN YOU. We can all change for the better.
you can be happy even with yourself by discovering the best friend in
you. get real. Don't be hard on yourself with those high ,
unattainable goals. It's time you don't look for happiness
outside you.
